Should you stop at nothing....or just stop?

Ok, so if you aren't completely clueless...you can agree with me that the show REVENGE is more of an obsession than anything else. As glamorous as it is to portray this concept with shady billionaire Hampton snobs, there is something to be said about revenge...and how it is in fact, an intense primal instinct that elicits salacious intrigue! Revenge originates all the way back to 17th century literature...hello, Hamlet? Are you nuts? I'm pretty sure Othello was.  It has also managed to keep Hollywood quite profitable. Think about it. Carrie White went postal on her classmates for picking on her....and she def showed them. Or then there is the Godfather (well, mafia in general)...James Bond....Thelma & Louise (classic!)....any movie where Russell Crowe dresses in metal getup, oh and you can't forget when Uma Thurman went beserk in Kill Bill 1, 2, 3...8,9,10. Even Dylan McCay sought revenge after he watched his father get blown into smithereens. Poor Jack. He was really trying to turn his life around. So, yeah. The point is, revenge is pretty much the rage when it comes to a good story telling. 

Now there is a part of revenge that I do believe is idle and rather disturbing. We learn from a young age to “be the bigger person” or just grow from whatever shitty experience has happened to us. Typically, I believe this is the way to go. Life is hard enough, and you really shouldn’t waste all that energy on somebody else who has wronged you, and you definitely can’t change people unless they are wiling to change. However, there are exceptions to this rule. Ooooo I love the exceptions! 

Here are a few scenarios where I think you should be granted immunity in "two can play that game."

1) somebody calls you fat. (no, that is all) 

2) your boyfriend decides to cheat on you with Florida trash, and opts out to visit you for a weekend of cheap beer, a lame excuse for a "boat" and a guaranteed case of crabs. (actually, if your boyfriend decides to cheat in general....)

3) you find out that the barista at Starbucks has been putting whole milk in your latte 

4) a classmate, or co-worker takes credit for work that you have done...and then labels you "crazy" for calling them out on it.

6) your bridezilla besty decides on an easter colored bridesmaid dress (that is not a true friend..)

5) somebody messes with ANYBODY that is family, or close friends

I could probably continue, but I'm pretty sure you catch the drift. The truth is, revenge can be applicable in mending whatever damage has been done....but it doesn't always equal an even score. Temporary gratification isn't always that great. Sometimes the energy we invest in having somebody "get theirs".... we lose sight of what really matters...and we become so consumed with the revenge, that we forget about our own happiness. My dear friend Coco Chanel said it best, "don't spend time beating a wall, hoping to transform it into a door."

If we spend the rest of our lives like Emily Thorne, we'd never get to appreciate the yumminess that is Daniel Grayson, or the fact that we have inherited a solid 100 million dollars. If I were Emily, I would enjoy my beautiful Hampton beach house, take a long vacay to the south of France, and go on shopping sprees at Barney's like it was my last day on earth. Does that really sound SO AWFUL?

Get even, but play fair. Vendetta's aren't always that cool. xx

"anything happens to my daughter, I have a .45 and a shovel, I doubt anyone would miss you."